Gedanken eines Neurodiversys:
Ich bin ein schwarzes Schaf in einer weißen Welt, das langsam realisiert, dass es bunt ist. Solang man aber die Farben nicht kennt, ist es schwierig farbenfroh zu sein, selbst dann, wenn sie die Fasern des eigenen Körpers ausmachen.
Questions I get asked a lot as an AuDHD coach and advocate and, intensity warning, my blunt answer. -->
“How do I get out of burnout without changing much in my life?”
“How do I find friends without putting myself out there and risk getting hurt because I’ve been hurt too much and people are crap?”
“How do I know/get what I want, or make decisions, without rocking the boat for anyone?”
Neurodivergente Familien sind wie ein Haufen Mobiles, die zu dicht zueinander aufgehängt sind ...
I seriously want to do a round table on "how writing groups can support their neurodivergent members". If this sounds like a panel you'd like to be on. Reach out.
I just had a very rough experience and want to prevent it from happening to someone else.
💙📚
Heute musste ich wieder Autist*innen-Bullshitbingo über mich ergehen lassen.
"Tu doch mal ein bisschen Lächeln in dein Gesicht, das da ist ja nicht schön!"
Und
"Los, mach doch mal ein schönes Gesicht!"
🙄🙈
Und das nach einem Wocheneinkauf für zwei Haushalte in vier Geschäften mit Migräne.
Society tells Autistic kids: be like everybody else, and then you can be happy.
But it doesn't work like that.
First you have to be happy being who you are. And then you can get along with other people.
I think I figured out my marketing problem. I lose my words. When I go to do marketing stuff I lose my words/my mind goes blank/its like static on the fritz. (yay AuDHD!), and I'm sure it's probably driven by trauma/basically being told that my own stuff is probably wrong and not good, but am wondering if any other #ActuallyAutistic folks run into this when promoting their work.
♾️Ten reasons why I like being autistic♾️
Maybe surprisingly to some, being autistic isn't all bad.
Here are some things that may get missed when autism is defined *only* through our difficulties & struggles.
#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD
A thread 🧵
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Whether or not you're actively working to change things in the larger world or in your own personal life, your individual efforts can only go so far. There are a lot of causes, projects, goals, ideas that you'll never be able to work on. Things you'll never be able to affect.
And that doesn't have to be a painful thing. It's neutral. This has always been the case. There are things you can change and things you can't.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #Acceptance
Fun neurodivergent poll:
Do you regularly/normally wear and buy COMFORTABLE SHOES? 👟
#neurodivergent #adhd #autism #audhd #poll #casual
I have a beautiful mug with a lid which I use for almost every cuppa I have throughout the day.
Keeps the tea hot hot hot.
Only downside is that I do sometimes find that I've completely forgotten to take the lid off and drink any tea at all.
Please also enjoy little tiny me having a great time with, and then probably wandering away from, a very early cuppa. (I do remember loving that tea set!)
Was gibts an empfehlenswerten Onlineshops für Chew Toys/Chewellery & Ähnlichem (wie früher stimtastic)?
Am liebsten:
* in Deutschland/EU/Europa
* in Hand von autistischen oder neurodivergenten Menschen
* nicht (nur) überteuertes dropshipping von Massenproduktion (ich will nicht ohne weiteren Mehrwert das 5fache für Sachen zahlen, die ich selber direkt bei AliExpress kaufen könnte. Der reine Versand direkt vom Hersteller ist nicht das Problem)
> New here. I'm Temika. I think in webs, not straight lines, so expect a lot of scribbled diagrams, pixel grids, and deep dives
into things that don't seem connected at first.
>
> By day, I visual-scribe for an Indigenous NFP, turning heavy conversations into pictures so we can actually *see* what we're dealing with. By night, I'm making 8x8 pixel games with my partner, or mapping out my own AuDHD and PCOS brain in my journals.
>
> I'm Narungga & Ngaanyatjarra, living on Whadjuk Noongar Boodja, and I'm here to take up space and find my people. If you draw your
thoughts, track your cycles, or think bilby conservation and emotional regulation are secretly the same thing, come say hi.
#Introduction #IndigenousArt #VisualScribing #AuDHD #PixelArt #pcos
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Autistic burnout map.
Most people in autistic burnout have no idea what stage they're in, what comes next, or how long it's going to take. This workshop gives you the map.
5 stages. What each feels like, what helps at each stage, and what backfires.
Sat August 22nd. Free.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
The five stages of autistic burnout and recovery, what each one actually feels like from the inside, and what helps — and what backfires — at each stage.buff.ly
Muss mich entscheiden, ob ich die Klausur mitschreibe oder das Statistik Modul aufgebe und nächstes Semester nochmal versuche 🤔 Hab nicht gelernt. Nichts ausreichend jedenfalls. Bestehen mit 30% des nötigen Wissens ist vermutlich unrealistisch 😝 Und es ist ne Klausur, in der keine Unterlagen erlaubt sind, also muss ich alles auswendig können. Manno. Warum hab ich es so weit kommen lassen? Wo ist mein Ehrgeiz hin? Die Motivation?
One of the saddest things to witness online is people going back and forth between identifying as ADHD or autistic because of descriptions of the experience and doubting because of "clinical", extreme or one-sided descriptions.
It's especially sad, when people seem to develop a mental block to understanding themself and connecting with others because of it.
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I love this joke! 😂 (Author: Kojo Arfo)
(And as usual I need to mention that we are unique, so it may be *not the same for you.)
When something changes in your life, either internal (personal growth, self-understanding, realizations) or external (circumstances), it can be disorienting for a while.
It's totally normal to feel like you're all over the place. Sometimes you're on top of things and sometimes you're scattered and forgetful, sometimes even nauseous or like you're floating, sometimes super hungry, etc. all with no discernible reason. 1/3
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity
#Neuro #NeuroWeirdo #ASD #AuDHD #ADHD #ActuallyAutistic #C-PTSD #Anxiety #Trauma #Ableism #Misologism #Misoneism #RudeMoFos #Ab*se #Where'sYourCompassion?
So many other horrid and ignorant things to add to this list, but this'll do for now. ❤️🩹🌻🦋♾️
Neurotypical people starting a new hobby: "Yeah, I bought a starter kit and a couple basic tools, nothing fancy."
Autistic people hyperfixating on said new hobby: "I've got a storage unit full of every kind of tool I could ever need, and several copies of most of them. I have also meticulously studied this subject for dozens of hours. I have at least two notebooks filled with information, colour coded for easy access."
It’s okay if a lot of your life at the moment is in a working theory standpoint. That’s a part of the process that we all go through after we figure out in our 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, or more, that, “Oh, by the way, I’m autistic. And so all of these things happened in ways that I didn’t understand.” 1/3
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent
"Proof" that I'm Autistic #315:
(not that I need to prove it to anyone; mainly to myself)
Normally my morning routine is:
- wash my hands and face
- take pills and vitamins
- get dressed
- take Zoe out
Today I slept in, so I got dressed first and took Zoe out because I knew she really had to pee.
When I came back in, it felt so wrong to be doing the rest of my morning routine with clothes on, so I took them off only to put them back on at the correct point in the routine.
Ich habe morgen ein Gespräch mit meiner direkten Chefin und mit meiner Personalfrau. Auf meinen Wunsch.
Mir ist jetzt schon schlecht.
Erkenntnis des Tages: es geht auf und ab.
Die gestrigen Aktivitäten waren offenbar so viel, dass ich heute hauptsächlich auf dem Sofa rumliege und mich zu nichts motivieren kann.
Ein bisschen Kleinkram habe ich erledigt (telefoniert! mit fremden Menschen!), aber sonst… 🤷🏻♀️
"Why do you need a label?"
⬇️⬇️⬇️
There is no such thing as oversensitive.
If something hurts you, it's irrelevant whether anyone else thinks it should have or not.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent #Sensory
Question for my fellow autistics of the fediverse.
Do you see EVERYTHING when you walk into a room for the first time?
The painting, and the crack in the wall next to it.
The plaid chair in the corner, and the dog hair behind the left front leg.
The vase and the faces. (in the figure-ground, or Rubin, vase picture)
I'm reading Leidy Klotz's new book, In A Good Place and he's saying things like, "we all miss most of the details when we enter a space. We see one thing then everything else dissolves into the background." and I just want to scream at the page.
Or this one:
"Our bodies keep responding to sensory inputs even when our minds have gotten in the habit of ignoring them."
Is it just me, or do our (autistic) minds NEVER get in the habit of ignoring sensory inputs?!
Ich lese/höre seit dem Verdacht auf #Autismus (zusätzlich zum #ADHS) viel darüber und stelle fest, dass ich einiges, was zur Bewältigung der Anforderungen eines durchschnittlichen Tages vorgeschlagen wird, bereits intuitiv und seit Jahren mache, um mir das Leben zu erleichtern.
Vielleicht bin ich doch schon auf einem ganz guten Weg, aus dem #Burnout rauszukommen.
Die größte Baustelle ist halt das Maskieren, und es ist echt schwer, das überhaupt zu erkennen und zu ändern.
How long is autistic burnout?
youtube.com/watch?v=9TiueENJYE…
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND
🟢 Free workshops on autistic burnout soon: https://www.autismchrysalis.com/events/**How long does it take to get out of autistic burnout?For me, different b...Autism Chrysalis (YouTube)
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Confession, in exactly the amount of detail this deserves.
I over-explain. Every time. Ask me one small question and I hand you the full technical appendix, the edge cases, and a brief history of why.
Then the guilt shows up, so I go find the person again to apologize for over-explaining.
A good apology needs specifics, so I list exactly which parts were too much. In order. With examples.
Which is, itself, an over-explanation. About the over-explanation.
There is no exit node in this loop. Autistic people, you already know. Everyone else, you just remembered a conversation with me.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #Autism #Blog #Fediverse #Thoughts
#introduction Greetings. Rejoining this instance with a new account some years after being locked out of my first Mastodon one, circa 2018. Introducing myself by way of a bunch of hashtags of interest, as one does.
My profile image is a 1940 painting by Dorothea Tanning, "Deirdre" (of the Sorrows).
#surrealism #magicalrealism #painting #womenartists #feminism #kindness #socialism #wildlife #nature #newengland #forest #music #film #hermitcraft #knitting #cats #museums #crafts #whimsy #AuDHD
I'm running a free workshop July 25 on Explaining Autistic Burnout — specifically for autistic adults, their family members, clinicians, and employers who want to understand better.
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Two free workshops on autistic burnout and recovery. Learn the stages, what helps, what backfires, and how to support someone in burnout.Heather Cook (Autism Chrysalis)
I’m so sick and tired of feeling behind in everything all day every da.
Wer kann mir ein Buch oder ein frei herumkopierbares Video nennen, mit dem eins Menschen die Mechanismen von (neurodivergentem) Shut- oder Meltdown erklären - und am besten noch vermitteln, wie ein Aussenstehender es nicht NOCH SCHLIMMER macht?
Frage für ein paar vorgebliche "Pädagogen", die ein Wusel mal wieder komplett in den Zusammenbruch getrieben haben...
At times in my life when the external requirements on me have conflicted with my internal needs or reality, the dissonance between those two has proved immense, painful, energy draining, and lonely.
I’m now convinced that this dissonance is a significant contributing factor in autistic burnout, which is a big part of why masking is so bad for us. 1/2
AuDHD isn't ADHD with autistic traits.
It's a completely different experience.
The overlap changes everything — how you regulate, how you communicate, how you burn out.
#AuDHD #Neurodivergent #Autism
The autism wants to finish the sentence.
The ADHD already moved on.
This happens dozens of times a day.
It's exhausting in ways that are almost impossible to explain.
#AuDHD #Neurodivergent
"Autism isn't a lifestyle, it's a severe psychological disorder."
No. Autism is a neurodivergence and a disability and it is a lifestyle.
My everyday life, how I cut and style my hair (or don't), the clothes I wear (or don't), the food I eat (or don't), the social life and relationships I have (or don't), how I spent my holidays (or don't), the books I read, the music I listen and dance to, the interests I have, how I communicate, my worldview, my financial situation, my sleep (or lack of), all this is part of being autistic for me.
Several things can be true at once.
